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Giving feedback can be difficult but it is important to do. It’s necessary for the receiver if they want to move forward.

As a receiver of feedback, remember that there is always something that you can learn from this even if you don’t want to believe it. Someone is perceiving you or has observed you in a certain way. 

Don’t punish the person giving the feedback. Reflect on what you heard and put yourself in the position of the giver. If you really want to move forward, you will receive it in an appropriate way so you’ll continue to get good feedback.

Giving good feedback is a gift to the receiver. If you are a receiver of this gift, accept it with grace.

Would you walk across hot coals? I did and here is why...


Do you consider yourself to be adventurous? Not me. I’ve never been very adventurous. Riding roller coasters, hopping on the back of a motorcycle, starting a conversation with a strangers -- no thank you.

But over time, I couldn’t just say no to every uncomfortable or scary situation.  I came to the realization that in order to grow,

I was faced with leading 350+ people, meeting and learning about as many of them as I could, and being in a new community and without friends on the first day. As I faced this fear, which for any introvert is as scary as going 100 mph on the back of a motorcycle, I learned that I could do it. And it got easier with each interaction.

I began to feel braver while realizing that pushing my comfort zone would help me grow as a person and as a leader. I started doing other things that scared me. I started big! My friend, Lynnette, and I decided to do the FIRE WALK!

 We attended a Tony Robbins seminar. The first day was very motivating, high energy, thought- provoking, and ended with the fire walking ceremony. I stared at 10-feet of red hot coals. How on earth was I going to do this? I needed to take one little step first, then another, and then another. It’s like a frog crossing a pond – it goes from one lily pad to the next. I was not going to be able to jump over the coals in a single jump!

Prior to walking across fire, I had joined a very extroverted group – Rotary, opened a restaurant, went zip-lining, started public speaking about my passions, and then eventually participated in a fire walk with 7,000 other people!

I learned that after conquering some fears, I felt like I could do anything! I'm getting more brave with every day!

What steps do you need to take to "walk across your fire?"